Attachment Style Quiz — Free Test
A free attachment style quiz based on the anxiety and avoidance model. Find out if you are secure, anxious, dismissive-avoidant, or fearful-avoidant. For self-reflection.
Updated 2026-06-14 · Free · No sign-up · Runs privately in your browser
For self-reflection & relationship insight · not a clinical or diagnostic test
Think about how you generally feel in close relationships (partners, but also close friends and family). Rate how true each statement is for you.
What Is My Attachment Style?
This free attachment style quiz helps you reflect on how you relate in close relationships. It is based on the standard two-dimension model used in attachment research — attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance — and maps your answers onto one of the four recognised styles. It is an educational self-reflection tool, not a clinical or diagnostic test.
Attachment theory, rooted in the work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, describes the patterns we bring to close bonds. Two questions shape your style: How much do I worry about rejection? (anxiety) and How comfortable am I depending on others? (avoidance).
How to Use the Quiz
- Think about how you generally feel in close relationships — romantic partners especially, but also close friends and family.
- Rate each of the sixteen statements from “Strongly disagree” to “Strongly agree,” based on your honest, typical pattern.
- Tap See my attachment style for your result and your anxiety and avoidance scores.
- Tap Start over to retake it. Nothing is saved — the quiz runs only in your browser.
The Four Attachment Styles
Your scores on the two dimensions combine into a quadrant:
| Low avoidance | High avoidance | |
|---|---|---|
| Low anxiety | Secure | Dismissive-Avoidant |
| High anxiety | Anxious-Preoccupied | Fearful-Avoidant |
- Secure — comfortable with closeness and independence; trusts and communicates easily.
- Anxious-Preoccupied — craves closeness and reassurance; fears abandonment.
- Dismissive-Avoidant — values independence; keeps emotional distance.
- Fearful-Avoidant — wants closeness but fears being hurt; pulls close then pulls away.
Worked Example
Suppose your answers give a high anxiety score (say 70%) and a low avoidance score (say 25%). That combination lands you in the Anxious-Preoccupied quadrant — you deeply value connection and seek reassurance, while staying comfortable with closeness itself. The result screen shows both percentages so you can see the balance.
What Your Result Means
Attachment styles are tendencies, not fixed labels. They can differ from one relationship to another and shift over time, especially with self-awareness, supportive relationships, and sometimes therapy. Secure attachment is the most settled style, and the encouraging news is that the other styles can move toward it — many people develop “earned security” as adults.
Use your result as insight, not a verdict. Understanding your patterns is a genuine first step toward calmer, steadier and more fulfilling relationships.
Frequently asked questions
What are the four attachment styles?+
Adult attachment is usually described with four styles: secure (comfortable with closeness and independence), anxious-preoccupied (craves closeness, fears abandonment), dismissive-avoidant (values independence, keeps emotional distance), and fearful-avoidant (wants closeness but fears it). They come from how comfortable you are with intimacy and how much you worry in relationships.
How does this attachment style quiz work?+
It rates you on two dimensions used across attachment research: attachment anxiety (worry about rejection and abandonment) and attachment avoidance (discomfort with closeness and dependence). Where you fall on each dimension places you into one of the four styles, with a percentage shown for each dimension.
Is this attachment test scientifically accurate?+
It is an educational self-reflection quiz inspired by the standard two-dimension attachment model, not a validated clinical instrument. It gives a useful snapshot of your tendencies in close relationships, but a therapist using full questionnaires can give a more precise picture.
Can your attachment style change?+
Yes. Attachment styles are tendencies, not fixed traits. They can shift over time, differ between relationships, and move toward security with self-awareness, healthy relationships, and sometimes therapy. Many people described as having an 'earned secure' style developed it later in life.
What is the healthiest attachment style?+
Secure attachment is generally the most settled — secure people find it easier to trust, communicate needs, and balance closeness with independence. The encouraging part is that the other styles can move toward security, so an insecure result is a starting point, not a life sentence.